It is not something that should be taken lightly. They want a man who has navigated the stormy seas of the world, who has just a little bit of history, and has overcome the degenerate worldly culture, a man who has discovered for himself where peace and happiness lie. I think love and caring can be more important. Sounds like classic "flirt to convert. You don't want a divorce because it will hurt the kids - they love him and think he's the greatest. We need to believe fully and then we make choices, not the other way around.
He really was awful to women and should've come with a warning sticker. The only thing they value it's themselves and their career. Anecdotes vs a much larger sample size. I have been married to a doc for 31 years and just found out about an "emotional affair" that went on for 15 years she is a nurse. I do my best, I accepted him knowing the stress on his career, knowing that it isn't easy. He studies all day and night I live in my own world and my own circle. Honestly I'd let things keep going. Is this a sign of my own weakness. If your relationship is moving forward, or she suggests doing something more expensive, it is not inappropriate for her to help pay as well.