Life happens, which means dry spells happen, am I right? No biggie—unless that dry spell morphs into more of a, well, severe drought. Can't remember the last time you wanted to have sex with your husband or partner? Factors like stress, time, and kids can seriously zap your sex drive. That said, you shouldn't just give up on your sex life forever. These stories encompass some of the most common reasons why women lose their sex drives.
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Sex in a new relationship is always pretty fantastic: It happens constantly, it's exciting to discover each other's bodies , and the two of you usually can't get enough of each other. If you're really lucky, the sex can last that way well into a long-term committed relationship, and you'll live happily sexually ever after. That said, sometimes sex between exclusive partners can start to dwindle over time. But no sex in a relationship at all might be something you want to address if physical connection is important to you. It's common to feel worried about sex in your relationship, and just as common to want to work on it. If you and your partner are having sex less often than you used to, it could mean something or nothing at all. The truth is that couples have sex less often for a multitude of different reasons, and it's a pretty personal thing to each couple. Martha Tara Lee , a clinical sexologist DHS, MA, BA and founder of Eros Coaching, says that a dwindling sex life can happen for a variety of reasons, and sometimes, it's hard to assess what's actually going on.
Not everyone wants sex all the time — we know that. Is cooling desire the beginning of the end, or are dry spells inevitable, even healthy? The Cut asked fifteen men and women what they make of the sexless nights, weeks, months, and even years in their relationships. I presumed building a life with a man would mean a tradeoff. After three years, he cheated. Then she cheated.
Relationships change over the years. If you're one of the many couples who find themselves having a lot less sex than they did when they started dating, you're not alone. Sometimes, though, a couple's sex life gradually decreases until it becomes nonexistent. And unless both people are happy with that, it's inevitably going to lead to problems. Couples may stop having sex for a variety of reasons, and the reasons can sometimes be uncomfortable to talk about with your partner. The quotes below are from Reddit users sharing why they and their partner no longer have sex, or have way less sex than they used to. All of their stories illuminate the importance of open communication between partners. I know that if I get up to do the dishes now that I won't have that thought anymore and I'll be able to relax and play my game. Sex is the dishes in this analogy.