I made a conscious decision to marry outside the church for my own reasons. I keep getting job offers from China and Japan while I truly struggle to find work here in the states. My parents met when my mom was in 8th grade and married when she was I think my sister married fastest and knew her husband at least 18 months, dating for at least half that. You will be able to best gauge where her beliefs stand in regards to the church if you listen to how she describes her mission. Mormon women greatly value sincerity of purpose. It may not seem like a big deal now, but eventually it will probably surface that at best, the church impacts and influences her behavior in almost every area, at worst, it dictates it. She's too heavily invested in Mormonism for that. I feel like I am under the microscope. I understand your internal conflict completely and my heart goes out to you. Once he's out of training, though, the medical marriage is much like any other marriage and the success strategies are really all the same.
I love him dearly with all of my heart. Vh65, your marriage is a black swan. I forgot to add, that if you marry and alow your children to be raised as Mormon, chances are you wont be able to be at their wedding because it will be in the temple.